Austin Haines, Alchemist

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humbled”,”start”:358.479,”duration”:2.801},{“text”:”to join the ranks of some of the people”,”start”:361.84,”duration”:4.799},{“text”:”that you’ve rubbed elbows with namely”,”start”:364.24,”duration”:5.44},{“text”:”oprah winfrey les brown marcus lemonis”,”start”:366.639,”duration”:5.921},{“text”:”the pointer sisters we are family”,”start”:369.68,”duration”:5.92},{“text”:”so i’m i’m humbled i’m like wow here i”,”start”:372.56,”duration”:5.12},{“text”:”am like star struck here”,”start”:375.6,”duration”:3.24},{“text”:”oh”,”start”:377.68,”duration”:3.519},{“text”:”please but you know i said i wanted to”,”start”:378.84,”duration”:5},{“text”:”ask you a question about time”,”start”:381.199,”duration”:5.12},{“text”:”are you a fire walker”,”start”:383.84,”duration”:3.6},{“text”:”yes”,”start”:386.319,”duration”:2.081},{“text”:”ah”,”start”:387.44,”duration”:3.36},{“text”:”okay”,”start”:388.4,”duration”:2.4},{“text”:”five maybe five times maybe plus 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