ENCORE EPISODE, Dr. April Odom, Licensed Mental Health Christian Counselor

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in”,”start”:3447.16,”duration”:4.6},{“text”:”contact with you how can they get in”,”start”:3449.559,”duration”:4.401},{“text”:”contact with you yes well as you see”,”start”:3451.76,”duration”:5.359},{“text”:”it’s strolling there Dr April brown.com”,”start”:3453.96,”duration”:6.159},{“text”:”is the best way to get in contact me my”,”start”:3457.119,”duration”:5.92},{“text”:”phone number is on the website and you”,”start”:3460.119,”duration”:7.041},{“text”:”can email me at info Dr April brown.com”,”start”:3463.039,”duration”:7.32},{“text”:”I would love to talk with anyone and and”,”start”:3467.16,”duration”:5.72},{“text”:”thank you so much for having me on the”,”start”:3470.359,”duration”:6.72},{“text”:”show and I thank you and I know”,”start”:3472.88,”duration”:8.36},{“text”:”that uh my audience has gotten a lot of”,”start”:3477.079,”duration”:7.881},{“text”:”value out of this even you all out there”,”start”:3481.24,”duration”:5.319},{“text”:”that didn’t want to put the comments in”,”start”:3484.96,”duration”:5.079},{“text”:”only Sandy was brave enough to do that”,”start”:3486.559,”duration”:6.04},{“text”:”but uh I appreciate all the questions”,”start”:3490.039,”duration”:6},{“text”:”and thank you so much it really has been”,”start”:3492.599,”duration”:6.361},{“text”:”eye opening oh awesome thank you Dr”,”start”:3496.039,”duration”:5.56},{“text”:”Janice I appreciate it and and you’re in”,”start”:3498.96,”duration”:4.599},{“text”:”Florida and you know I don’t want to”,”start”:3501.599,”duration”:4.121},{“text”:”hear it yes and you’re welcome to come”,”start”:3503.559,”duration”:3.52},{“text”:”down and”,”start”:3505.72,”duration”:4.04},{“text”:”visit as soon as we can get past the”,”start”:3507.079,”duration”:6.72},{“text”:”snow I would love to yes so you have a”,”start”:3509.76,”duration”:6.64},{“text”:”beautiful blessed rest of your morning”,”start”:3513.799,”duration”:5.081},{“text”:”afternoon well you’re in Florida so your”,”start”:3516.4,”duration”:6.6},{“text”:”evening yes alrighty thank you all right”,”start”:3518.88,”duration”:5.88},{“text”:”bye bye”,”start”:3523,”duration”:5.28},{“text”:”by well this has been really eye”,”start”:3524.76,”duration”:7.319},{“text”:”openening and really informational and I”,”start”:3528.28,”duration”:7.6},{“text”:”know that you got a lot out of it and”,”start”:3532.079,”duration”:7.04},{“text”:”and and for those out there if if you”,”start”:3535.88,”duration”:7.08},{“text”:”are having difficulties in your”,”start”:3539.119,”duration”:6.68},{“text”:”relationship um as far as intimacy is”,”start”:3542.96,”duration”:7},{“text”:”concerned or sex is concerned reach out”,”start”:3545.799,”duration”:6.641},{“text”:”to Dr April”,”start”:3549.96,”duration”:5.48},{“text”:”Brown”,”start”:3552.44,”duration”:3},{“text”:”www.d April”,”start”:3556.96,”duration”:7.76},{“text”:”brown.com so we’ll see all of you again”,”start”:3560.799,”duration”:7.52},{“text”:”next Thursday on relationship matters”,”start”:3564.72,”duration”:6.92},{“text”:”remember there are all kinds of”,”start”:3568.319,”duration”:6.641},{“text”:”relationships and there are all kinds of”,”start”:3571.64,”duration”:7.28},{“text”:”relationship matters so I will see you”,”start”:3574.96,”duration”:7.48},{“text”:”again next Thursday 7 PM Central”,”start”:3578.92,”duration”:5.93},{“text”:”Standard Time byebye”,”start”:3582.44,”duration”:68.749},{“text”:”[Music]”,”start”:3584.85,”duration”:66.339}]