The Bullet Proof Marriage with Chad and Lanell Osinga

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Achieve”,”start”:466.12,”duration”:7.4},{“text”:”greatness in their lives welcome welcome”,”start”:468.68,”duration”:7.56},{“text”:”welcome welcome welcome and thank you”,”start”:473.52,”duration”:5.88},{“text”:”for your service oh you’re welcome you”,”start”:476.24,”duration”:5.12},{“text”:”are welcome it was my”,”start”:479.4,”duration”:4.44},{“text”:”pleasure and”,”start”:481.36,”duration”:5.08},{“text”:”Lenelle uh wait Chad I’m going to say”,”start”:483.84,”duration”:5.639},{“text”:”and your better half my”,”start”:486.44,”duration”:5.92},{“text”:”better I don’t always you know what I”,”start”:489.479,”duration”:5.961},{“text”:”agree now you know like years ago I want”,”start”:492.36,”duration”:6.44},{“text”:”to agree to that you know I gotta say”,”start”:495.44,”duration”:6.199},{“text”:”that because I’m a woman amen you know”,”start”:498.8,”duration”:4.839},{“text”:”like I said I understand I get it I’m”,”start”:501.639,”duration”:3.28},{“text”:”I’ll take my flowers I’ll take 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you”,”start”:1666.399,”duration”:5.28},{“text”:”emotionally mentally I was like honey I”,”start”:1669.039,”duration”:4.76},{“text”:”wouldn’t stay I wouldn’t even even give”,”start”:1671.679,”duration”:3.84},{“text”:”it a chance if you see how he’s treating”,”start”:1673.799,”duration”:3.201},{“text”:”somebody else and you know that they Ain”,”start”:1675.519,”duration”:3.52},{“text”:”right I wouldn’t even give him a chance”,”start”:1677,”duration”:4.24},{“text”:”right I was like I was like you have to”,”start”:1679.039,”duration”:4.561},{“text”:”be self-aware at all times about how”,”start”:1681.24,”duration”:4.88},{“text”:”you’re observing this person observe”,”start”:1683.6,”duration”:3.76},{“text”:”everybody that you’re around and that’s”,”start”:1686.12,”duration”:2.72},{“text”:”the biggest thing I don’t think people”,”start”:1687.36,”duration”:3.84},{“text”:”observe them long enough you just jump”,”start”:1688.84,”duration”:4.48},{“text”:”into relationships and you don’t 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right”,”start”:1987,”duration”:5.919},{“text”:”[Music]”,”start”:2000.96,”duration”:3.109},{“text”:”back”,”start”:2005.96,”duration”:3},{“text”:”[Music]”,”start”:2022.18,”duration”:21.889},{“text”:”[Music]”,”start”:2047.03,”duration”:20.109},{“text”:”oh”,”start”:2065.879,”duration”:7.561},{“text”:”[Music]”,”start”:2067.139,”duration”:8.901},{“text”:”wow both of those books are very very”,”start”:2073.44,”duration”:5.88},{“text”:”appropriate to uh the theme of our show”,”start”:2076.04,”duration”:7.16},{“text”:”today having a bulletproof marriage so”,”start”:2079.32,”duration”:6.519},{“text”:”let’s bring back Chad and”,”start”:2083.2,”duration”:6.8},{“text”:”Lenelle all right right so now how did”,”start”:2085.839,”duration”:6.681},{“text”:”you come up with that name well she”,”start”:2090,”duration”:4.599},{“text”:”actually came up with it I was actually”,”start”:2092.52,”duration”:3.48},{“text”:”thinking about everything we’ve been”,”start”:2094.599,”duration”:3.121},{“text”:”through 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when”,”start”:2178.839,”duration”:4.28},{“text”:”all of that happened with him getting”,”start”:2181.24,”duration”:5.839},{“text”:”hit for the second time and him I flat”,”start”:2183.119,”duration”:6.041},{“text”:”he flatlined twice and then they said”,”start”:2187.079,”duration”:3.641},{“text”:”when I picked when I came to the”,”start”:2189.16,”duration”:3.08},{“text”:”hospital they said yeah he won’t walk”,”start”:2190.72,”duration”:4.119},{“text”:”for 18 months and you know all the you”,”start”:2192.24,”duration”:4.68},{“text”:”know all this negative energy and”,”start”:2194.839,”duration”:3.201},{“text”:”everything that they were saying was”,”start”:2196.92,”duration”:3.919},{“text”:”negative and I was just like I don’t”,”start”:2198.04,”duration”:4.92},{“text”:”believe that like I never believed”,”start”:2200.839,”duration”:3.921},{“text”:”anything they said I never believed even”,”start”:2202.96,”duration”:3.359},{“text”:”when he came to the hospital the 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a”,”start”:3660.16,”duration”:5.639},{“text”:”beautiful blessed rest of your evening”,”start”:3662.119,”duration”:5.521},{“text”:”yes you do the same thank you so much”,”start”:3665.799,”duration”:6.641},{“text”:”for having us thank you bye bye bye”,”start”:3667.64,”duration”:7.64},{“text”:”wow this has been this has been this has”,”start”:3672.44,”duration”:5.44},{“text”:”been really great and like you say live”,”start”:3675.28,”duration”:6.64},{“text”:”live TV so I dropped the mouse and I”,”start”:3677.88,”duration”:5.8},{“text”:”don’t even know if I can get back but”,”start”:3681.92,”duration”:4.159},{“text”:”anyway I want everyone to have a”,”start”:3683.68,”duration”:6},{“text”:”beautiful beautiful morning afternoon or”,”start”:3686.079,”duration”:5.96},{“text”:”evening wherever you are in the world”,”start”:3689.68,”duration”:7.27},{“text”:”and I will see you again next week bye”,”start”:3692.039,”duration”:15.351},{“text”:”[Music]”,”start”:3696.95,”duration”:10.44},{“text”:”bye”,”start”:3713.44,”duration”:3},{“text”:”[Music]”,”start”:3718.13,”duration”:43.9}]